Does not want to go to sleep!

It is up to parents, as part of their education and for the child's own well-being, to specify what time they should go to bed. And it is that at this age they are capable of concocting incredible reasoning and using overwhelming arguments in order to avoid this moment. However, their sense of self-control is not yet highly developed and they refuse to acknowledge that they are exhausted, even though their eyes are closing.

Rebellion at the foot of the bed

It is true that they are no longer babies, but they still need to sleep about 10 hours (from 10 at night to 8 in the morning) to regain lost energy. An issue that always arouses controversy because, although they accepted it willingly - except for a small ups and downs - while they were younger, now it becomes a workhorse of their incipient declaration of independence: "I am already older, and I am not you can treat like it's still a baby. Let's see why can't I?".

We try to instill a habit in them, but it is not a one-day job; firmness and consistency are required when applying our authority. And the truth is that they are right: a rule can be appropriate when they are seven years old and become obsolete when they reach nine.

Although some discipline is essential for family dynamics to work, exceptions are made to confirm the rules; If one night he stays until 12, watching an NBA game on TV, nothing happens (as long as there is no school the next day).

What happens is that many parents fear that, if they give in once, they will be forever subject to their whims. But it does not have to be like that. Quite the contrary; if it is explained to them that it is something exceptional, they will take it as a significant gesture of trust and complicity.

When Morpheus is late for the appointment

You have to be tolerant enough and take into account that some children are more sleepy than others, and that there are periods of more or less sleep. Sometimes, they are caused by physical reasons (after several rainy days without going out to play, it is logical that they are less tired); others for psychological reasons (having a relative stay a few days to sleep at home is an extraordinary novelty for them). And, as it happens to us adults, there are certain times of the year in which, due to a greater number of solar hours or due to the increase in temperatures, there is a variation in the hours of sleep.

Within a few margins, we must be flexible with those streaks of greater or lesser need for sleep. In general, any alteration in their daily routine, no matter how small, will take them out of their daily schemes. Going to bed cannot be treated independently of the child's other activities.

If we want him to accept the situation without protesting, a previous ritual can be established: preparing the next day's school supplies, the clothes and shoes to be used, putting on pajamas, brushing teeth, etc.

In addition, it is a good idea to help you calm down progressively and not pretend that five minutes after engaging in an exciting activity you want to go to bed looking good and in a better mood.

What a roll!, I am not even sleepy...

What if he says he's not sleepy yet? Nothing to play a little to get tired and summon the absent. It is more practical to use little tricks: ask him to close his eyes and recall a relaxing scene ("Do you remember how the water resonated in the tent last summer??"), tell you a story... But let's not be fooled by their tricks ("I want to pee again "; "Can I have a glass of water?"...); They are old tricks to get away.

However, it is logical that the child, when mother and father work all day, wants, and needs, to spend more than five minutes to tell them, when they arrive at night, what has happened to them at school.

The necessary flexibility of the rules can come in handy to introduce you to another habit: that of reading. If you are allowed to stay up for a while, let it be to read a book, not to watch an action movie. And leaving very clear the time to turn off the light to avoid the usual "One more page, please ".

If his determination to delay bedtime at all costs is caused by a fear of the dark, let's have a chat with him and see what we can do to make him feel better (leave the hall light on or a pilot in his room). There are children who are more insecure, but it is usually about seasons; an understanding attitude on the part of the parents will be the best remedy.

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