Speaks only when playing or alone: ​​beneficial or worrisome?

Children speak alone, it is something habitual and common, in fact this phenomenon has already been described by important authors of psychology, such as Jean Piaget who called it egocentric language, with which he referred to the way that the child has to integrate with the environment that surrounds it. On the other hand, there was Vygotsky who called this self-referred language private speech and, going further than Piaget, considered it fundamental and that it had a very important role in the development of the child.

Why are we concerned that the child will speak only then?

Normally, one of the things that worry parents happens when they observe that their son or daughter speaks only during the game, it usually seems to us a sign of alarm when, in reality, there is nothing to worry about, in fact it is sign of good psychological health. 

Parental burden probably arises from thinking that the child may have some type of mental health problem, but nothing could be further from the truth.

Next, we explain some benefits of this behavior, but first of all we highlight that this type of behavior usually occurs more often after the age of five. 

Benefits of speaking alone

When a child speaks alone or alone improves attention span, since they not only focus on what they say but also on what they do.
In addition, they train the language, that is, they self-correct.
On the other hand also enhances self-control, not only express emotions and feelings but also learn to control them, such as anger or frustration, so common at these ages.
Develop social skills because they play various roles and thereby learn to be more tolerant and empathetic.
Secondly acquire tools on the different forms of interaction.
It has another benefit that will help them in the long term and that is that children who speak to themselves during play stimulate your creativity, developing strategies for conflict resolution.
To support these benefits and to understand the reason for this fact, different studies have been carried out over time on how the fact that the infant speaks alone during play influences.
In one of them it was concluded that this type of behavior makes them learn to think and stimulates logical thinking. It helps them understand what is happening around them and order the thought, thus getting to focus on your objectives and goals.
It also enhances the effectiveness of performing a task out loud, since it says the steps that you are going to take. Helps memory go faster and stimulates and reinforces learning.
Power the self knowledge (essential for emotional intelligence) by listening to your inner voice, as well as to understand why you act in a certain way.
In short, when the child speaks alone or alone during the game, not only is it not negative and we should not worry, but, as we have seen, it provides more than one benefit for both emotional, cognitive and social development.

Dew G. Abós is a psychologist specialized in personal development and child psychomotor skills. Owner and author of Vértice Psicología.

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