Without a doubt, the most important thing is that the people who take care of our children are totally trustworthy, but according to statistics, abuse occurs more within the family itself or among the people the parents trust the most.Therefore, we give you some keys that you can put into practice very early in the education of your children to prevent any unpleasant situation.
Teach the little ones to not having secrets with your parents is the first basic lesson. Building trust between parents and children will make them tell us everything. This is essential to detect any type of strange behavior in the people around you. An innocent secret, however innocent, like the little whims that grandparents grant, should also be told to parents. If you want them to tell you these kinds of little things, do not be angry with them if they have disobeyed you in something. This will prevent them from telling you the truth again if they suspect that you may react badly. In these cases, explain why what they have done is not right and tell them that they have done the right thing by telling you about it. In any case, the person responsible is the adult, not the child, so it is useless if you get angry with the little one.
Not only to teach values to our son, so that he learns manners and for so many other things it is essential that parents and children speak frequently and freely. Communication at home is essential to detect if children are experiencing an unpleasant moment in their life, to know what is happening. Talking to them during meals, turning off the TV and mobile phones, or on the way to school will make the child feel heard. Tell you what you have done throughout the day and encourage him to make his own judgments about his surroundings.
It is important that everyone at home tell us what has happened to us throughout the day, good things and less pleasant things. In this way the child will know that he can trust us in any situation. If he talks about a situation that makes you distrust, do not change the tone of your voice. Encourage him to keep telling you by always making him see that it is positive for him to communicate with you and take the appropriate measures: go to school and explain the situation before the child becomes more uncomfortable, if necessary.
If your child has a "bad feeling", respect his instincts. Children are very sensitive to any type of abuse and detect it, with an unpleasant sensation, in its earliest stages. Teach them to ALWAYS express what they feel, especially when something is strange or unpleasant to them. They may not like someone in particular picking them up. Encourage him to be sincere and always tell you. This will help you maintain that confidence and make you feel protected. It is not about the child becoming rude, but he must know that not everything that adults do is always right.
Parents, present in the lives of their children
All parents want to be part of our children's lives, but sometimes work and other obligations complicate it. There is no excuse. We must be present in their lives, be interested in what they do and with whom they do it. No matter how busy we are, it is important to take the time to meet their soccer coach, dance teacher or director of the music school they attend. All the adults present in the lives of our children count, they are part of their education and none of the environments that our children frequent should be alien to us. What is more important than them? Surely we will find a way to let ourselves see and see those who are with our little ones.
Who do they spend their time with?
Be it family, friends, coaches, teachers or any other adult figure that surrounds our children, it is essential that parents get to know these people well, that they have our confidence and that we can go to them to ask any kind of question. It is clear that no parent will leave their children with a stranger, but sometimes it is necessary to question that relationship. Not because a person already has our trust should be forever among the "safe" people. If any of those adults are overly concerned about the child, be on your guard. A teacher will be with the children during class, sometimes even outside school hours to prepare for some special school action, but if they look for other times to be with the children outside of class, do not take it as something routine. Ask yourself why and don't relax.